Kaveh Pakjoo with two teens he works with

Dis/Connect: Immigrating to Sweden and Going from Loneliness to Leadership

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Kaveh Pakjoo immigrated as a child with his family to Sweden and found himself attempting to overcome the rough waters of immigrating to a new country on his own. The difficulties and loneliness Kaveh felt in his youth has inspired him to help others in a similar position. Nowadays, Kaveh's after-school center is called Kavehs Fritid. The center aims to build connections and reduce the feeling of loneliness that's growing not just in Sweden but around the world. We spoke to Kaveh about how he has dealt with loneliness in the past and how he thinks we can all start to make our environment a little friendlier. 


“We could eradicate loneliness if we just started by saying hello.” Saying hello “costs you so little but gives you so much back,” declares Kaveh Pakjoo, a youth leader in Bromma, Stockholm.

Saying hello helps someone feel recognized by letting them know you are interested in interacting further, and while it’s a great start, it’s also just the beginning. It takes a bit more effort actually to form a friendship, Kaveh explains, as he remembers
the first real connections he made during his youth.

Born in Iran, Kaveh’s family moved to northern Sweden, where he spent his early childhood years. He remembers in kindergarten, moving to a new city and how hard it was when he first arrived. “I used to go and hide until the other kids found me or the teachers would come and try to encourage me to join the group,” Kaveh shares.

“As a teenager, I had a rough time emotionally after my father’s passing. I was not in a good place, and it was hard for my mother. So I was placed in the care of the government and was moved around to different boys’ homes. I was always ready with a bag [whether] to move homes, or even run away.”

With the recent influx of immigrants coming to Sweden, Kaveh sees a noticeable uptick in kids and teens growing up in similar situations. Lots of youth coming to Sweden often arrive alone or with only parts of their families.

Kaveh notes that while many of these kids may have had nothing more than the emotional support of their families in their home countries: in Sweden,
they have everything they want and need except that support. It leaves them stuck in a feedback loop of feeling lonely and disconnected from the world around them. And it’s not just Sweden — loneliness is a growing epidemic among youth around the globe. So how do we bring more connection to a young person’s life?

According to Kaveh, it just takes one person to say hello, as it did with him when living in the various boys’ homes he grew up in. While some of these boys’ homes were quite strict, Kaveh recalls one man who started engaging with him regularly. The man discovered Kaveh liked to read, so he introduced him to the author Dean Koontz. “He started bringing his books for me. And that, I will remember that always… This guy I will remember forever.” Kaveh carries this experience into the work he does today.


A skating outing with Kavehs Fritid

In 2016, Kaveh started his own after-school center called Kavehs Fritid, a non-profit organization that provides activities for local boys during their free time. What started as pick-up soccer games and the occasional barbecue has turned into an ongoing series of activities and events where kids, teens, and community members come together to make and sustain deeper connections. Kaveh has worked hard to build a safe and nurturing space for people to get to know each other.

Kaveh’s excitement is contagious as he talks about the growth of his organization. For him, building trust is the most important part of making a friend and trust can be a rare commodity among the youth he works with. “It’s very important to show we’re doing this work because we want to and that we enjoy this as much as the kids do. I understand that this is a big responsibility. They trust you and they identify with you. You have to take this seriously.”

The genuine care and compassion that Kaveh brings to the boys he works with can inspire us all. To learn more about Kaveh and his organization visit his website. From children to the elderly to everyone in between, feeling alone and disconnected has become commonplace. So we’ve started the Dis/Connect series to share stories of how people have overcome loneliness and how they find new and creative ways to become more connected. If you have a story you’d like to share, please reach out at connect@panion.io.

Melanie Aronson
Melanie Aronson
Melanie Aronson is a photographer, filmmaker, artist, and entrepreneur based in Malmö, Sweden and the Founder of the social app Panion.